Attitudes about consent and respect are formed much earlier than when most people think they are. Diane Peppler Resource Center Executive Director, Betsy Huggett, shares how she talks to preschool children about consent and respect in this great video.. a great resource for parents!
After explaining basic consent (“Oh my God, I would love a cup of tea!”), this video dives headfirst into less evident territory. In less than three minutes, it explores a multitude of scenarios where consent gets blurry, from simple (your guest did want tea, but changed his or her mind once you put the kettle on) to less so (your guest isn’t really sure how to feel about tea right now).
“If you say ‘Hey, would you like a cup of tea?’ and they’re like, ‘Uh, you know, I’m not really sure,’ then you can make them a cup of tea, or not, but be aware that that they might not drink it,” the narrator says. “And if they don’t drink it, then—and this is the important bit—don’t make them drink it. Just because you made it doesn’t mean you’re entitled to watch them drink it. And if they say, ‘No, thank you’, then don’t make them tea. At all.”
What is consent? How do you know if someone wants to have sex with you? How do you read their body language and communicate with them to establish and respect each other’s boundaries? Consent is about listening to your partner and respecting them, and we believe this video goes some way to show that.
Consent is mandatory – sex isn’t.
This is a great Irish Video made by Bogdan Hrechka in association with Trinity College Students’ Union on the subject of consent.